The Ultimate Price Men Paid For Freedom

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Hey All!

Today is Memorial Day, a time to remember the fallen. Those who paid the ultimate price. They didn’t get a choice to go backward. They powered through doing as trained. I give thanks to God for those men.

The past few weeks have been a difficult time for me in relearning some things and getting the timing down. I am back working on a project that is challenging for me. I must make peace with the fact it may just be the slow but steady progress. I cannot allow it to control me or my emotions.

As of Friday, I would have boarded up my windows if I could have. That is how much I wanted to get away from people, places, and things.

The thing of it is, I have had to take stock of going backward closing myself off.

The con is I stay wrapped up inside my head and the growth stops when I close myself off. The reality is some days will suck, while flying high on other days. The key is again the pauses they are important in stopping negativity from entering situations and communication.

You may be asking, how I can compare any of this to those men who fought for freedom? The answer simply is they went through challenges knowing their very life could be taken. Yet, they powered through and gave all until they had nothing left.

To give thanks to those men and show gratitude for what they have given, I must not allow myself to stop just because something is difficult. I have wanted to make changes and I have made changes.

My belief system comes into this journey as well. I mean, after all, I must have a conscience. I cannot leave that part out. In my beliefs is where I do find grace and courage. Now it may not be the courage of the men took, who have fallen. That is more reason to keep going and get through to the other side.

I must not give up on myself. No one else is coming. I have to pick myself up. Did I not get the memo?

Do the next right thing. It begins when I pick myself up off the ground and get back in the saddle. Have my coffee with my morning prayer and meditation. After my shower remember to acknowledge, high-five, and affirm myself. It is all part of self-care, loving myself, and knowing I love what I do as well.

This is all in nurturing the seeds planted in myself and others. I share what I have and what I struggle with. It is all communicating there are no shortcuts. It is in doing and following through is the only way to any kind of success no matter what it is you or I do.

Together we can! We all got dues to pay. It is a fact.

Psalm 31:24 ESV Be strong, and let your heart take courage,

all you who wait for the LORD!

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The Struggle Is Real When Advocating For Yourself Or Others

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Hey, Y’all!

I am going off on a tangent here. I am on a roll about how important it is to advocate for yourself and others.

One of the major things people have tried to get across to me is asking for help. Now when it comes to the medical field and health care, the important part is knowing how to ask and what it is, that you are asking for help with.

As I have gotten older and okay maybe I have been bolder, but at times too shrinking away acting like I should not bother someone. They are two extremes that will ensure you do not get the right help.

You cannot scream for help unless you have fallen and okay using profanity is like throwing gasoline on a fire. It will not serve any purpose but exacerbate the situation instead of helping it.

I must admit I have not always followed this advice and have felt horrible and still angry afterward even in recent times. It did not help me, and it did not help the staff.

You must prepare ahead of time for appointments and rides.

1. Confirmation of appointments

2. Confirmation of rides plan to leave at least an hour before appointments.

3. Plan to not be home until an hour after the last appointment of the day.

4. Hygiene goes a long way when riding with others and with the staff. (Yes, it must be said!).

5. Make sure you have water and a snack (I have failed on this, it cost me greatly)!

NOTE* Please be ready for your driver -Communication goes a long way in most cases the ride is free he/she is providing you with a ride when they are usually way overbooked.

6. Having a list of medications and carrying your I.D. and insurance cards are good ideas to make sure your appointment goes through when you arrive.

7. Make sure your concerns are heard and that you have a clear understanding of orders for going home.

8. If driving yourself or someone you know is driving you, make sure you allow 10-15 minutes ahead of time for check-in. In a lot of cases, these days being more than 15 minutes late means you lost your appointment, and rescheduling is required. You may even be charged a fee for a lost appointment.

9. If you know ahead of time you are going to need to reschedule an appointment, please do so at least 24-48 hours ahead of time.

10. Try to find something to be grateful for in the appointment it can help you and your provider.

Dealing with home care agencies with house cleaning and errands.

  1. No helper is forever or legally bound to stay as your helper forever.
  2. Make sure personalities mix and that they are not afraid of work.
  3. If you have tried to work out differences and they are not doing assigned chores agreed upon when signing up with the agency it is time to call and ask for another helper.
  4. If the agency cannot help you get another helper it is time to move on to a different agency.
  5. Always document things. In every case with doctors, helpers, and nurses alike.
  6. Always have a hard copy of times and appointments, times when people enter your residence, and when they leave.
  7. Always have emergency numbers listed on a piece of paper in a convenient place as well as a list of medications you are currently taking.

Home Health Nurses

Remember they are an extension of your doctors and nurses being present and following the orders they have been given. If there is a situation call your doctor immediately and ask for clarification.

If there is a problem with personalities again, giving a chance can help.

However, if something is a risk health-wise and the nurse is not doing her job then call the home health nursing office and ask for a transfer.

They are only human too. So, respect and courtesy go a long way with them, and being at your residence and being ready for them will make your visit go way better.

Having your meds out and your list also helps them so things can move along, and no one is losing time. Following their directions is advised as well.

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Taking Responsibility In Being Prepared For H.A.L.T

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Hey, Y’all!

Here it is lunchtime and barely finishing my coffee. I wanted to take the time to write today about H.A.L.T. I briefly went over it in a couple of writings. I have things popping up in my journey and I must be prepared for exactly those halt times.

I have failed even recently in taking the responsibility for my side of the street. I am doing my best to start thinking about turning that around by being prepared. I mean the reset came in time for me to try and do damage control over my whole life.

Now doing damage control does not mean I take on anyone’s judgment.

It is just taking responsibility and here we will go over again the acronym of H.A. L.T.

Hungry

Angry

Lonely

Tired

I am going to be taking snacks and water and water when I go out anymore because that is my responsibility. I cannot just blame things on blood sugar or being off schedule of my routine. That is not anyone else’s responsibility but mine.

 I have added a new post-it to my desk as a reminder. In changing my behavior visuals are important tools for me. Early on when first stabbing at getting sober I needed phone numbers. A gentleman handed me his phone number and on the back of it read this, “my friends and I do not hurt each other or ourselves.”

While I no longer have the card or know where that man is today; that card has stuck out in my mind all these years later. I wish I had followed that advice all these years. I want to practice those principles in my life today, to save a lot of heartache and headaches. I get the chance to pack more in the stream of life when I stop making excuses for my behavior.

I will say today has certainly not been a perfect day. I overslept once more and had to do a drive-by-text check-in. The rest of this week I Will be concentrating on waking up on time because again being late because I am tired is a behavior, I do not wish to continue.

Allowing the irresponsibility of not doing self-care can mean missed opportunities. Let me say, not being prepared for the halt moments is exactly, not practicing self-care.

While I say all of this I also say, you cannot beat yourself up as I must not do to myself. All we can do is, move forward and do better.

I know I want more for myself in the fact that; I cannot allow something done wrong by me or others to stand in the way of me getting more and giving more.

Again, this is where the accumulation of all the small things (that we think are trivial or insignificant), we or I do matters. They can make or break us from reaching our full potential for getting and being in all the good stuff.

My determination must say to myself, I can do this! Together we can!

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Just To Be With You Me And God

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Hey, Y’all!

I am back here again there is so much always to share and be grateful for. I am learning and relearning new things and old things every day.

First and foremost, Happy Mother’s Day to all the Mamas!

I celebrate my own Mama today! I shared how much I love her the other night on the phone. I told her how much I appreciate her and the wonderful ways she helped me get through life when I was younger and especially in the past year.

Her reply was something along the lines of all I have done been able to do is pray, help, and love you from a distance.  It is not exactly it but close to what she said. I said is that not what moms are supposed to do love from a distance with their grown children? Again, something close was my reply and it was like a lightbulb a went on for both of us. She agreed it is.

Friends there were days in the past year of many tears and fears. Not knowing what to do or how to do this life. My mama knows a thing or two, and that was prayer and encouragement.

Right now, there are logistics to work out and we must work through them for me to meet up with her. I cannot wait for the day we get to meet up. All I can say is that it is complicated, but love and love are not complicated at all between her and me anyway. Otherwise, I would be celebrating her in person!

I encourage everyone everywhere is a way to be with your mama, you go be with her celebrate her, and show her your thankful heart. You let it be all about her today! Take those pillows for her weary head and feet. She has carried you a long way if she is biological or not!

This leads me to also say This mama I told you about is my bonus Mama, and she has bled, sweated, cried, prayed, worried, and laughed all through my growing up and adulthood. She has breathed life into me. But I also celebrate my biological Mama who gave me life and allowed me to fully develop and be born! One of my biological sisters and I lovingly refer to her as Mommy Joyce.

How does all this fit into the new things I am learning?

I am learning to stop the self-hate talk that goes on in my head. Letting go is a decisive process that starts with a five-second rule with the negative thought stopping the thought as it enters in 5-4-3-2-1.

It is taking that time to look at me in the bathroom mirror and look myself in the eye and say, “Hey Mike, you are going to do great things today!” and then high five myself. I am still at a difficult point with this finding it somewhat silly and fruitless.

However, I have made a promise to keep high fiving myself until I want to do it and it does not feel forced. That is not to say I do not have to force myself. Some days are easier, and some are harder.

My whole inner core of myself is to want to know me, be with me, be who I am and be with My God the Father, The Creator, and be all I was made to be. My soul cries out for that and has my whole life

There have been times of my doing the best to drown it out through self-hate self-sabotage and doing everything I can to die.

I am still in a process of fighting behaviors that no longer serve me. I will probably be in a fight with some of those until my last breath! The good news is this it gets better! I have gotten better, but there is always more work to be done.

I want to live today. I want to Celebrate being with you, me, and God.

Just for today!

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My Gratitude Is A Plan Of Action

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Jeremiah 29:11 ESV

11 For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.

Hey, Y’all!

It’s good to be back writing once more. I have been big on gratitude for some time. Perhaps even before I knew just how useful this tool can be and can save me from a day being ruined.

Monday was such a day I had the opportunity to use this valuable tool to turn my day around.

I was feeling, just not with it, and thought maybe I would coast through the day feeling armed with a new form of knowing more about myself during this process of resetting my life.

Somewhere between 11:00 am and 1:00 pm, I was feeling that Monday day coming on feeling and being a little bit hangry. Hungry, angry, and a man of little patience. The self-pity even started to slip in.

The next thing I started contemplating was the fact of me doing this reset. While it may have started as a reset with Mel Robbins, I realized this was my reset. I could start my day over and I started making a gratitude list.

I next realized, “Hey this is the first time I ever thought on my own to do a gratitude list in response to my feelings. Something is working here!”

I have decided to do a daily gratitude list of 10 things each day. In this entry, I am using yesterday’s list as the guide in which I share the changes in why I am grateful for each item.

To me, it is just amazing how you may know useful tools and how one day the light bulb goes on where those tools become more effective.

My list starts in the following way:

  • I am grateful for the fact that I am alive.

This means I have a chance to grow and break the cycles I have remained in and that no longer serve me.

  • I am grateful I can change my attitude.

I do not have to be miserable and make others miserable. I get the opportunity to change my responses to negative things and the thoughts running through my brain.

  • I am grateful I can change my actions.

For a long time, I did not know I have a choice to choose not to respond. I always have that option. In a lot of cases, it is the best choice I can make.

  • I am grateful for a program that helps me get it together,

I do not have to stay stuck. I can make up my mind to follow suggestions that have worked for others. There is strength in numbers and a lot of times just listening to others’ experiences helps me way more than trying some little trick. Though doing something I have never done before works as well, in most cases.

  • I am grateful for my spirituality.

Today I believe God is real and has my best interest in mind. I believe God has fought hard for me in the insane life I have led. He loves me unconditionally. I believe God has a plan for me and gave His Son for me. I am not here to shove it down your throat. It is a fact in my life and what I believe.  

I believe God has used and continues to place people, places, and circumstances in my life for different reasons. All of it is shaping who I am today.

  • I am grateful I do not have to ask family and friends to bail me out of every jam today.

There have been so many times in my life of being irresponsible and keeping on making the same poor choices that left me in the jams of insanity. The many times of having to lose everything start over. I hope to never have to repeat those lessons and pray I stay on the journey I am traveling.

  • I am grateful my life has turned around.

Almost a year ago now I realized I had turned a corner in my life where I reached the physical age of poor decisions and living just plain wrong had a cause and effect upon my life. My body’s check engine light came on and it was no fun. I have made changes and hope to make even more.

  • I am grateful that the simple small actions can make my day a success.

The simple small steps are making a gratitude list. It is getting up as soon as possible and choosing to move forward with my day. Taking the time for self-care. Filling my medicine box, being my advocate, Praying first thing, and getting that cup of coffee before I talk to anyone. Taking a pause, I do not always remember this and usually regret it later.  

  •  I am grateful for the choice to stop the insanity.

Whether it comes through the phone or trying to come in through my front door. I have the choice to refuse it today. To be honest, mostly insanity tries to come into my thoughts and that is where the rubber meets the road. Stopping the first thought can be winning the battle.

  • I am grateful for a place to call home.

I have food in the cabinets and fridge, I have a place to sleep and it is safe to be here. I get to be here today.

I hope this has been uplifting and has helped you on your journey.

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We Just Finished A Quarter Of The Year!

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Hey, Y’all!

Welcome to May 2022!

I am in the middle of doing a hard reset of my life. While it is Mel Robbins with the idea of doing a reset and training videos. I am grateful for her sharing the training videos. I have received a more in-depth look at everything.

I have more tools and systems to add to my toolbox. But I must say, even the Bible says there is nothing new under the sun. I have been in therapy for over twenty years and my therapist is the best in my book. He has asked many of the questions and wanted the same work done in this reset that is required.

So I am excited because it gave me a new way to look at those questions and figure out what I want and do not want in my life. What will my life look like if I have all the things I want my life to look like. It is just as important that I get to share this with my friends, family, and people who follow my journey.  

I had the opportunity to fill up my fun tank. I did a brunch with a friend. I got to implement my cooking in action by making a coffee cake and hash brown casserole. I am still learning to ask for help. Most of the time, I admit it comes down to me conceding to the fact I need help.

Sometimes I am surprised when it turns out to be a successful day. It is about connecting with another human being and living life on a spiritual plane. Sharing and loving each other. Taking action. Love and respect in action.

I have been missing the tools that have been right in front of me the whole time. The missing link had been learning how to take action. There is a way designed for tools to work, but the difference is the know-how.

The way to conquer the goals and larger achievements is by doing the small things. Doing the small steps to take a bigger stride.

I am a visual learner with hands-on. This means yes I want control. I have to see it in black and white at least, if not even color-coded, highlighted with exclamation points, and underlined. The bottom line is to just do the action!

When I get to check off what I have completed I feel accomplished. Seeing is believing! I am laughing as I write this part because it is hilarious that this is exactly how I act in real life when given a set of instructions. It is also usually followed up by, are you sure this is right?

Often I think up every reason why not to follow the directions or divert from the original plan. However, I  have to go back and read the original directions and just do what is directed.

I am resetting folks! Do you need a reset? I will be sharing more along this journey.

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Spring Reset With Mel Robbins And Catching Up Currently

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“You can’t control how you feel. But you can always choose how you act.” — Mel Robbins

Hey, Y’all!

I am at the last minute getting information out about a very important opportunity that could change your life.

The other evening I was going through my Facebook feed when I came across Mel Robbins offering a free Spring Reset 3- Part training. Mel Robbins is a motivational speaker. I jumped on the chance for this opportunity and hope that many others take this FREE Opportunity as well. Please Click The Link  https://courses.melrobbins.com/reset you will not be disappointed.

I have followed the instructions thus far and already have the training 1 video waiting for me to watch and work through in my email.

I have shared before and continue to share that a year ago when I was in the hospital and rehabilitation Nursing Home, I would not remain the same when I returned home.

I was released the Weekend of July 4th, 2021. My Independence Day personally, was July 4th, 2021. When friends did what they could but especially one friend who asked someone to help me move to a street-level apartment.

My life has not been the same since coming home that day. I have not, nor has anyone else found it necessary to call an ambulance for myself since the Spring of 2021. I want to continue my journey of change.

I am down to two wounds on my left extremity on either side of my ankle. A year and a half ago we were looking at 11-15 wounds total and maybe even more than that. I have lost a total of 75 pounds in the last year and I am hoping to press on beyond that.

I have made my apartment home and refer to it as my house. I feel like I am a sponge taking in everything I can learn, hoping to implement more changes in my life. I have plenty of room for improvement and want more than anything to keep growing and changing.

Emotionally and spiritually there has been an improvement in not having to take other people’s temperatures to see if I am okay.

I am closer to God than I have been in almost the whole seven years I have moved to South East Missouri. Again I have much room for improvement. I am finding I am for once, reasonably happy and content in my surroundings.

I am finding joy in my life. I have accused others of stealing my joy and maybe one or two monsters that were once in my life did steal my joy. But I realize today, I mostly traded my joy for fear, anger, resentment, hatred, self-loathing, and self-pity, Do you get it? I became my monster.

I am working to rid myself of all the monsters today.

I am learning to surrender, pray, and meditate. I have hope and a future.

I get the choice to listen to others and realize they help me more as I listen.

I do not have to defend myself today in stories others may hear about me or see. I have both been a good friend and a jerk. Both are true.

My life is not even close to what it once was and I am pushing forward.

Let’s Do this Spring Reset With Mel Robbins

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I Have Updated The Links Page and Sharing Life

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Hey, Y’all!

I am pleased to announce I have fully updated the cooking shows and other favorite links page to this point.

I hope to add in my planting of a few plants. I am limited in living space being in a one-bedroom apartment with a small square of a patio. It is still my refuge and where I can have my sanctuary of peace. I am very grateful for it.

I do want to share more of my life and the favorite things I like to do. I also want to dabble in new things and share those along the way as well.

To have a quality of life means living and doing things as well. It takes action. Doing things even when you know might fail.

I would rather have the enjoyment of at least trying something than not ever knowing if I could do anything. I am like a lot of people sometimes I bite off more than I can chew. When that happens I know it is time to regroup and start smaller.

Changes and cycles are all a part of life’s way.

I want so much more out of life in doing and being. While this is one page I have updated it is just part of my favorite things. If all I did was watch cooking shows and never try a recipe well then it is kind of pointless. Though my meals may not always have the desired appeal to them, the fact I try at all and come out with a result makes me happy.

I am having to reuse a lot of pictures as far as my pictures because I am running out of them to share.

I hope to take more pictures and do more things. I want to make more memories. Especially as a single in this life, it is important to me to document more and make my mark in this life.

Last year I am not sure I was hanging on to a string of hope. This year is different. It has been a year of healing and hope combined. I am learning more to self-sustain but even more so develop spiritually more in faith.

While I hope for many more years to come at the end of my life I do want to be able to say it has been a fun, wild, ride, I hope to make a difference even if it is only in one person’s life. I hope I see the 80s and 90s of old age and do everything people said I could not do. I want to do the things that I say I never could do!

A year ago, I truly believed in my heart I was having to try and figure out how to leave this world peacefully and with as much grace as possible being angry still.

But it was prayers of faith good thoughts, goodwill, and hope. I am never going to stop trying to take greater care of my precious life. I may give in to a few things. But I will continue the journey to the end.

I do find one thing no matter what to be grateful for each day!

Joy comes in the morning!

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This World Is Too Much With Us

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Hey Y’all,

I am back. I am recovering from being sick and it has been challenging to say the least. I did enjoy my birthday, as it was one of the best!

The topic at hand grabbed my heart in the past week or so. I was watching a cooking show and saw someone had a devotion book with the title on the page that read: “This World Is Too Much With Us.”

When I saw the title, I instantly imagined God saying that out in the open as a statement.

I see God as the Ultimate Parent in my world. I see God as The Creator. I see God as love and the Spiritual Being or Divine One.

God in my eyes had rules and expectations, but most of all God had a plan. That plan included us. My views keep changing but the constant is that God loves me accepts me, created me, sees me as enough, and provides for me. He always provides a way out if I look for it. I find myself when going through a difficult time, that Life was never meant to be this hard! There has to be an easier way!

I know when I begin a new adventure I will spend my energy foolishly, thinking if I just start full force with all I have I will plow through with no problem. But it does become a problem because I get worn out realizing I must start at the beginning once more.

It seems when we are the most worn is when we are needed most or that we need to be needed. We want to fulfill some impossible tasks. Because we want to help in some way, be a part of, and build a bridge to make it easier for others as well as ourselves.

We keep hoping for an easier softer way. The reality is if we just do what is in front of us to do is the easier way. The other way just becomes a way of using and being used up. It is like using some unearned credit to make it for what we think might be an easy ride up the mountain. What I fail to realize is that unearned credit is going to be time to be paid back plus interest. This is what living life on credit or a bartering system is like. Because in the very beginning we start using scales that are not balanced, It is just like gambling. Only we do it with our very lives, The house always what? The house always wins! We lose more than what we were supposed to gain.

The ways of this world just do not work. In the faint distance, I can hear my mom and dad calling after me. “We never meant that for you!” In the same way, I hear God today saying: “It was supposed to be easier, did you not hear my instructions? Did you not listen? I never meant that harm to you. That was not my plan for you!”

This world will use you up, chew you up, and spit you out. We get used up trying to find an easier, softer way.

Being on this journey means doing what is in front of me. Letting go of my expectations of what I think the instructions mean and following the instructions makes it easier. I see more beauty in life when I find my gratitude.

Safety comes when I just do my part and it becomes an easier mountain climb just one foot in front of the other. God has been here the whole time. This World is too much with us.

In the end, this is how we walk each other home. My Mama is calling for supper time … I just heard her…”Michael, Michael, Its’ time to come home!” Be there in a minute Ma!

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Reflection, Mourning, Celebrating, And Letting Go of Selfishness

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HeyY’all!

I have much love and appreciation as of today the 500 plus likes of Boxcar Mike. I am grateful for this platform.

I am gonna get right into it. I have had a few moments of melancholy and that homesick feeling of wanting yesteryear back. You see, every year right before celebrating my birthday, I have cause to reflect on the year and many years now, before it.

I have 56 years to look back on. Some of those years were harder than others. All of them meant some kind of change was going on.

I want the times with my brother back. I want all the good times with my mama and dad back. I want the good times of more recent years of my mama back. No one sang that country song “You’re Gonna Miss This,”  to me way back then. I took so much for granted.

Oh to have my dad alive, healthy, and well. But if I ever wanted that wish so selfishly well my Mama wouldn’t have the man she does today, who she loves and he loves her. It is not that my dad didn’t love her, or that she didn’t love him, it is more life moved on.

Sometimes our selfish wants to step all over our loved ones. So we learn to love and accept life on life’s terms. Some of those terms mean they get to have a life they couldn’t have otherwise. For there is a season for everything under Heaven.

As for my brother, well he’s alive and well living the closest to a wonderful life as he can. He is with a wonderful wife with whom I just skip in law with and call my sister! They have one handsome son, all grown up now and couldn’t be prouder of as I am also.! Ladies, he’s off the market last I heard. He’s now living the awesome dream he wants as well, all out on his own.

I could go on with all my siblings, aunts, uncles, etc Even Grandma and Grandpa. But do you not know my selfish perfect world if granted, would put an end to their close to perfect worlds, that they get to live in and or finally rest in peace. I love my whole family! I never want to invade or try to trump their way of life with my selfishness.

I did choose to live an hour or more away. I knew it might be hard and some days are harder than others. Especially when you want to help or change things. But the reality is there is no more I could do if there than me here. I would be in the way and selfishly stomping all over what God is doing.

I screw up enough in my own life. I am not perfect! Some days you just cry because well, in the past you see where you made it hard for people to love you. But you do not get to wish their lives away for your selfish dreams. Sometimes I wake up and bust out laughing about a dream or a memory that was funny. This sometimes happens, In the wee hours of the morning.

I have been through many changes, hardships, scares, and looking like I could not come out of the woods, this year alone!

There are probably a good 35 years I want back, Right now, I am just trying to make up for the last ten years. They tell me “Mike buddy, all you got is today.” It is back to simplicity. One day, one heartbeat at a time. That is all we have. I just want another hug, another I love you!

May we all be around for the next entry of Boxcar Mike.

Thanks for reading!

This has been another blog post entry by Boxcar Mike, over and out!

God Bless Y’All  Everybody!